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Comment on Transitional Relationships - Good, Bad or Ugly? by Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 21:33:26 +0000

Well, Frank - I think I probably look past it all. You nailed it - too much hope, I suppose. Do believe he was into it - he was very down when he left my house that final time, said he regretted the situation and that everything was too complicated to explain. He is kind of a control freak and i think he just couldn’t control me. (shocker LOL). Anyway all of these comments are helpful. And ultimately the relationship will be helpful down the line, I think.

Muah

Comment on Transitional Relationships - Good, Bad or Ugly? by Angelika

Angelika — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 05:23:13 +0000

I’m sorry that you got hurt… My take on the situation is that a “transitional relationship” isn’t for you, or isn’t for you right now, and also that he was just not that into you. I’ve been on both sides. I’ve been in situations where the guy just didn’t have “time” for a relationship. Also, once after a 5-year relationship, I got into a “transitional relationship” clearly and honestly explaining to the guy that it was all I was interested in at the moment. After a couple of months, he wanted “more.” I told him that I didn’t have “time” for a relationship (which really means that you don’t have time for that person.) I wasn’t into him, so I ended it. To me, that phrase is like a code word - if someone doesn’t have “time” for you, they’re just not enough into you to make time.

Comment on Transitional Relationships - Good, Bad or Ugly? by the urban dater

the urban dater — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 23:30:46 +0000

That’s a tough deal, Tiff. I don’t know that there is an easy answer for you here. Unfortunately you have tof get out there date around to know what does and doesn’t work for you. like a bad bowl of soup you don’t need toeat the whole thing is bad. that’s what I did for a time. I just got out there and figured out what workedfor me… I think With a little more time you’ll get your answer. until then keep rocking your boots.

Comment on Transitional Relationships - Good, Bad or Ugly? by Frank

Frank — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:23:28 +0000

Honestly, I don’t think that there is a perfect answer to that question. Some people can go from one relationship to the next, while others need time to find themselves again, almost a mourning you might call it. To be quite honest it’s was almost scary reading some of the things that he said to you about not “having time” etc. Why scary?.. simply because I myself have said the VERY SAME to a couple of women that I have been out of a few dates with. Although, I DID give them my phone number, I DID bring them to my house, I DID explain, in lengthy detail as to why it was I thought this way. My personal belief in MY relationships was that it was temporary for sure at the time… no one can know what will happen down the road. My stance is that I personally can’t put forth what I believe to be a decent amount of attention and time with a person to have a “serious” relationship with. I was thinking that my reason was the same as your guy’s….. until you said you didn’t have his number, never been to his house.. I read that and all I see are red flags and warning signs. Were you caught up in the moment? or did you just have too much hope and looked past them thinking it would turn into something “more” ?

Comment on Transitional Relationships - Good, Bad or Ugly? by Surfergrrl

Surfergrrl — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 18:17:10 +0000

Sorry to hear you got hurt. I think that kind of relationship works only if both parties are amicable. I’ve been in a “relationship” like that after my long-term boyfriend broke up with me. Neither of us had expectations and no one got hurt, and although we don’t have intimacy in our relationship anymore, we are still good friends. I think for most women, it’s tough to have this kind of relationship though. I think we invest more emotionally. I was surprised myself that I could have this kind of relationship. But now I’m ready for something more with someone else.

Comment on Her First Date, Post-Divorce by Transitional Relationships | That Happened to Me

Transitional Relationships | That Happened to Me — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 13:02:59 +0000

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Comment on Michelle Obama’s Secrets to Picking a Great Guy by downfromtheledge

downfromtheledge — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:36:20 +0000

unfortunately there aren’t enough baracks to go around…at least from what i have observed in his consistency of character over the years, and between the home and public spheres, he seems to be a rare person of integrity. while no one can predict the future, i can’t imagine him ever cheating on his wife. they appear to genuinely cherish and value one another. i think michelle definitely knows what she’s talking about - a person’s soul, how they treat you, how you feel as a result of their actions…are the most important factors in choosing a partner.

Comment on The Saga of Tiger Woods update by downfromtheledge

downfromtheledge — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:19:46 +0000

i can’t answer the question of how much responsibility an iconic figure holds towards the public. all i can share is how disgusted i feel each time a new story breaks. whether it’s my neighbor or my president, anyone who cheats has devastated someone (more likely, many people, often with lifelong consequences). if you really see nothing wrong with what you’re doing, then don’t try to hide it. my problem is the lack of integrity inherent in people purporting to be something they are not; it’ s a breach of trust with the public.

those who have no honor in their own home, within the context of their own marriages and families, are not the people i entrust with the faithful running of my government. and i personally don’t put athletes up on pedestals, so while i don’t feel any sense of gain or loss upon finding out who they really are, i think it demonstrates a lack of any semblance of moral responsibility towards others. why do women seek out and stay with there powerful, charismatic figures? i don’t know, but i’m waiting for the hillary clintons of the world to kick their lying spouses to the curb and start modeling some self-respect.

Comment on Breaking Up is Hard to Do. For Everyone. by downfromtheledge

downfromtheledge — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 06:35:45 +0000

Life would be more interesting if we were all a little more transparent. Radical honesty? Too scary in the real world. Unfortunately, there are consequences for being honest. I’m off to read Penelope Trunk…

Comment on Happy Holidays and Congratulations! by admin

admin — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 19:13:22 +0000

Haha, you took the words right out of my mouth!