http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/10/whats-the-best-advice-youve-ever-received/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:33:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/10/whats-the-best-advice-youve-ever-received/#comment-251 Doda Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:18:16 +0000 http://thathappenedtome.com/?p=1064#comment-251 Early in my marriage, I was angry with my husband (for some insignificant infraction, but HUGE in my 21 year old world). Out with the family, I was pouting, stomping and downright bitchy. My mother-in-law, grabbing my elbow, whisked me away from the group and whispered, "don't fight in public, it makes you look bad and everyone else feels uncomfortable". From that moment, while there have been many arguments, I have never publicly fought with my husband. Now, 30 years into the relationship, I'd say that was very good advice - which I've applied many times over in my professional life, too. Early in my marriage, I was angry with my husband (for some insignificant infraction, but HUGE in my 21 year old world). Out with the family, I was pouting, stomping and downright bitchy. My mother-in-law, grabbing my elbow, whisked me away from the group and whispered, “don’t fight in public, it makes you look bad and everyone else feels uncomfortable”. From that moment, while there have been many arguments, I have never publicly fought with my husband. Now, 30 years into the relationship, I’d say that was very good advice - which I’ve applied many times over in my professional life, too.

]]> http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/10/whats-the-best-advice-youve-ever-received/#comment-250 Jean Jeannie Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:24:55 +0000 http://thathappenedtome.com/?p=1064#comment-250 My mom has always been the strongest female influence in my life, and the person I truly admire most. Many times through the years she has reminded me that I will never get back more than I give - whether it's to a relationship, a job, whatever. My first instinct is to always feel like I'm giving so much. But the truth is we need to constantly evaluate our own behaviors and make sure that you're really "in it", with head and heart. In the past, I've had to check myself, to make sure I was really giving situations my all. I've also left jobs and boyfriends when I realized that my efforts weren't reciprocated. My mom has always been the strongest female influence in my life, and the person I truly admire most. Many times through the years she has reminded me that I will never get back more than I give - whether it’s to a relationship, a job, whatever. My first instinct is to always feel like I’m giving so much. But the truth is we need to constantly evaluate our own behaviors and make sure that you’re really “in it”, with head and heart. In the past, I’ve had to check myself, to make sure I was really giving situations my all. I’ve also left jobs and boyfriends when I realized that my efforts weren’t reciprocated.

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