Comments on: This Just In: Revolution, Death and Divorce http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/06/this-just-in-revolution-death-and-divorce/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:34:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: admin http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/06/this-just-in-revolution-death-and-divorce/#comment-109 admin Mon, 29 Jun 2009 23:01:24 +0000 http://thathappenedtome.com/?p=761#comment-109 Thanks for your comments, no-sexandthecity. I agree with you about a very important point you bring up: despite what a relationship or marriage may look like on the outside, you never know what's really going on behind closed doors. I find myself saying this to women all the time - women who look at their friends' or celebrities' marriages and feel jealous or let down that they too, don't have these perfect lives. And you're right about another thing, we have to first value ourselves before we can insist that a man does, too. Our sense of worth should not depend on how we are perceived by the opposite sex, but fostered on our own before we even let them into the picture. If we understand that, we will never allow ourselves to be devalued or undermined. Thanks for your comments, no-sexandthecity. I agree with you about a very important point you bring up: despite what a relationship or marriage may look like on the outside, you never know what’s really going on behind closed doors. I find myself saying this to women all the time - women who look at their friends’ or celebrities’ marriages and feel jealous or let down that they too, don’t have these perfect lives.

And you’re right about another thing, we have to first value ourselves before we can insist that a man does, too. Our sense of worth should not depend on how we are perceived by the opposite sex, but fostered on our own before we even let them into the picture. If we understand that, we will never allow ourselves to be devalued or undermined.

]]> By: no-sexandthecity http://thathappenedtome.com/2009/06/this-just-in-revolution-death-and-divorce/#comment-108 no-sexandthecity Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:56:33 +0000 http://thathappenedtome.com/?p=761#comment-108 This post made me think about how sad life sometimes is as a woman in our "liberated" country, and how even ordinary women are nothing less than heroic - moving mountains if necessary - when it comes to "pulling the ship on their own" in so many respects. Women are looking around for men of honor and too often finding selfish, overgrown boys. Men now proudly excuse their philandering with the new bio-evolutionary excuse "we are programmed to spread our seed around as much as possible" instead of admitting it is their own failed ethics. Seems selectively chosen to me. What about men as providers, protecting the women and children. Not leaving them to fend for themselves. Not abandoning them and refusing to pay child support. Not saving the world by day at their jobs and letting their families fall by the wayside. Not using women and then tossing them aside like garbage. "Women whose lives are not turning out the way they expected" - even when the picture looks perfect it often is not in those around me. Perhaps the husband is there...but he's boinking around, or addicted to porn, or wants to be waited on, or plays video games all night instead of sharing responsibilities, or he gets violent, or goes out with the boys and drives home drunk like he's still an adolescent. Where are all the real men? No, this life is surely not turning out as expected for a lot of us women. We are too often ending up single, divorced, disappointed, disgusted, abused...and too rarely loved, honored or cherished. I look around at the women still trying to hold their families and themselves together, and I am proud. Women are bravely fighting for their own worth in a world that devalues them. This post made me think about how sad life sometimes is as a woman in our “liberated” country, and how even ordinary women are nothing less than heroic - moving mountains if necessary - when it comes to “pulling the ship on their own” in so many respects. Women are looking around for men of honor and too often finding selfish, overgrown boys.

Men now proudly excuse their philandering with the new bio-evolutionary excuse “we are programmed to spread our seed around as much as possible” instead of admitting it is their own failed ethics. Seems selectively chosen to me. What about men as providers, protecting the women and children. Not leaving them to fend for themselves. Not abandoning them and refusing to pay child support. Not saving the world by day at their jobs and letting their families fall by the wayside. Not using women and then tossing them aside like garbage.

“Women whose lives are not turning out the way they expected” - even when the picture looks perfect it often is not in those around me. Perhaps the husband is there…but he’s boinking around, or addicted to porn, or wants to be waited on, or plays video games all night instead of sharing responsibilities, or he gets violent, or goes out with the boys and drives home drunk like he’s still an adolescent. Where are all the real men?

No, this life is surely not turning out as expected for a lot of us women. We are too often ending up single, divorced, disappointed, disgusted, abused…and too rarely loved, honored or cherished. I look around at the women still trying to hold their families and themselves together, and I am proud. Women are bravely fighting for their own worth in a world that devalues them.

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